Category: Newborns
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10 Things to do When Your BFF Becomes a New Mom

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So your BFF is becoming a new mom! Whether you are a mom or not, you might be wondering what you can do to help.

Becoming a mom for the first time is one of the most life-changing events. No amount of organizing or cleaning can really prepare you for how life is about to change.

It can be overwhelming, anxiety-inducing, and just plain hard at times. Support from family and friends can make all the difference!

If you haven’t already you should check out my posts on How to Support Your Wife as a New Mom and How to Support Your Husband as a New Dad.

As a friend or family member, there are many ways you can help ease the transition into motherhood. I did some reflecting on my own time as a first time mom and here is what I came up with.

 

10 Things You Must Do When Your Best Friend Becomes a New Mom

This Post is sponsored by Little Nest Boutique, Moose and Goose Studio, and Sweet Vintage Designs. This post contains affiliate links. All opinions are my own.

1. Help her register. If you are a mom yourself, there is no one better than you to help your BFF register for her first baby. One of the most overwhelming parts of becoming a new mom is trying to register. I remember spending 3 hours in the store with my husband registering. We looked at the entire wall full of bottles and had no idea where to start. Not to mention, I was pregnant, tired, and hungry.

Set up a time to go with your BFF to register. Better yet, sit down and create a baby registry on Amazon from home! Shop Amazon – Create an Amazon Baby Registry Don’t know where to start? Check out my post on Ten Products Every New Mom Should Know About.


2. Throw a baby shower. Obviously, if your BFF is having her first baby you should throw her a baby shower! Since baby showers can get a little pricey, ask some other friends to go in on it with you! Having multiple hosts helps take the pressure off and saves you some money!


3. Get her a gift. Not just any gift. This is your best friend we’re talking about! Try to think of something personal to go along with something from her registry. Here are some fantastic little Etsy Shops that have adorable baby gift ideas!

Little Nest Boutique

Little Nest Boutique Navy baby blanket, newborn swaddle, baby wrapAt Little Nest Boutique you can find blankets, swaddles, bibs, made to order bassinet and crib sheets and so much more! You have to check out her shop!

Moose and Goose Studio

Moose and Goose Studio Modern Baby Gift Set

Go check out Moose and Goose Studio to find wooden teething rings, bibs, pacifier clips, and more! Follow Moose and Goose Studio on Facebook and Instagram and message Rachel to receive 10% off your first order!

Sweet Vintage Designs

Personalized Baby Name in a Frame Gift

This is just one example of the cute prints that Peggy at Sweet Vintage Designs creates! She is able to customize the name and colors of any print in her shop! Be sure to go check out all of her other designs as well!

4. Make her a meal or 2 or 3. This one is a MUST! The new mama (and her family) need all the nourishment they can get! It is so easy for new moms to forget about taking care of themselves while they care for a new baby. However, it is so important!

Bring a hot meal and a few that can be frozen. After I had my first, I also had a friend that came and stocked my pantry! It was so nice not to have to search for food when I needed a quick snack! When I needed a meal, all I had to do was heat something up and voila a fresh, home-cooked meal! Totally beats take out any day!

5. Set up a meal train calendar. Help your BFF and yourself by setting up a meal train calendar! Send it out to her friends or add it to Facebook. The more meals, the better! You can set up a free meal train HERE!

6. Help her address thank you notes. With a new baby comes gifts galore! While taking care of a new baby writing thank you notes can be a bit overwhelming! Help your BFF by addressing and sending out her thank you notes!

7. Call and visit her AFTER the hype is over. Who doesn’t love visiting a brand new baby? Continue to call and check on the new mama in the weeks (and months) after the baby is born. After the hype of the new baby is over, it can get lonely at times as a new mom. I found I really needed friends after my husband and mom went back to work and I was home alone with the baby all day.

8. Ask her what she needs. You may really have to pry on this one. Some mamas don’t want to bother anyone or ask for help. Insist on helping somehow and ask what she needs. It may be something as small as a coffee run or something like help cleaning the house! Be available and ask what she needs.

9. Get her out of the house. I remember my very first trip out of the house as a new mom. My mom came with me and we took the baby to her first doctor’s visit. Afterwards, we made a trip to Target and got things I still needed for the baby. Had my mother not been with me, I don’t think I could have made that first trip out by myself! It sounds silly, but it caused a lot of anxiety for me as a new mom! So thankful I had my mom with me that day!

10. Don’t expect anything from her. Make this time all about your BFF and her the new addition to her family. Things may never be like they were between you and your BFF before the baby came along. Understand the changes she is going through and give her time to adjust. Eventually, you and your BFF will find a “new normal.”

Do you have other helpful tips for friends of a new mom? Leave them in the comments below! 🙂

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in Newborns, Toddlers

5 Ways to Relax When you are a Busy Mom Strapped for Time

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My day consists of working full time as a preschool teacher but it doesn’t stop there. I am also a wife, a mom of two, and a new blogger. Not to mention I try to live a healthy lifestyle which can also be time consuming. Most nights I am asleep by 12 AM or later and up at 5:30 AM. I try to catch a little time to breathe after work before coming home to the kids. By the time the they go down, I am too tired to do anything for myself.

Sound familiar? Well, I decided to put together a list with links of quick and practical, yet relaxing ideas to do when you are strapped for time but in desperate need of some ME time. This post may contain affiliate links. If you purchase something from one of these links I get a small fee. Don’t worry though, I only recommend things I use and love.

Sit down with a nice cup of coffee. My absolute favorite way to relax is to sit down with a homemade mocha. One thing I look forward to every Saturday morning is actually sitting down to drink my coffee while the kids play. My husband got me this espresso machine for Christmas a few years ago. It has been the best gift EVER! I no longer have to go to Starbucks to get a fancy espresso drink. So, while I constantly drink coffee to survive, there is just something relaxing about actually sitting down and ENJOYING that cup of coffee.

 

Take a hot bath. A hot bath is always a great way to unwind after a long day. Even better add some essential oils or Epsom salts to relieve stress. Not only does it give you time to breathe and think, but you come out feeling like a new person.

 

Get some exercise. I know you might be thinking, exercise is not relaxing. However, if you are super stressed, a quick run or brisk walk can be just what you need to get your blood flowing to regain some energy. It is a healthy way to relieve stress and it leaves you feeling refreshed.

 

Read a book. Reading a good book is a great way to unwind before you go to sleep. I recently read The Nightingale and For the Love LOVED them both!  You can’t go wrong with either!

 

Just go to bed early. If you really don’t have the energy to do something for yourself, sometimes the best thing you can do is just go to bed early. After a full night’s sleep, you may just feel much better.

 

I am realizing that my health and sanity is kinda important to function as a teacher, mom, wife, and blogger. My goal is to do at least 2 of these things each day. What do you to to unwind, relieve stress, or just relax? Leave a comment and let us know your ideas!

 

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in Newborns, Toddlers

Living on One Income-Are You Financially Ready?

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Making the Decision to Stay Home

Deciding to be a stay-at-home mom (or dad) is a HUGE decision. Maybe you are the parent who always knew they wanted to stay home. Or, you might be the parent that said you would NEVER stay home. Either way, there are a lot of factors to consider when making the decision for one parent to stay home with the kids.

Can you Afford to Live on One Income?

The biggest factor most families must consider is their financial situation. Are you financially ready to be a stay at home parent?  One way to find out is to try living off of one income. Automatically put one paycheck in savings for three months and consider how it affects your finances. Do you still have money left over at the end of the three months? Do you need to cut spending in some areas? Will you save any money by staying home? Will you spend more money by staying home?  I have listed out steps you can take to help you answer these questions below.

Figure Out Your Budget

I highly recommend signing up for a free account with Mint.com. It is a great free and secure tool for budgeting, tracking and paying bills, and managing your money. Mint allows you to enter your bills, credit and debit information, and create your own budget. It shows you easy to understand graphs of where your money is going. You will also receive alerts you when you are getting close to going over budget in any one area. I suggest signing up for a free account to track your spending for these three months to see where you might be going over budget.

Next, make a list of expenses that you have because of work including daycare, work attire, gas for commuting to work, etc…I like to think of these extra work expenses as income when you stay at home. 🙂 Subtract these expenses from your budget and do a happy dance!

Of course, while you will be saving money in some areas, you may spend more in others because you stay home. For example, you may not have to pay for lunch and snacks when your kids go to daycare. However, when you stay home this is an added expense you will have to pay. Some daycare providers also pay for diapers and wipes so don’t forget to add those types of expenses as well.

What Can You Live Without?

Now, at this point you should have a general idea of how much much you will have left at the end of each month. You may realize that you are way over budget and feel like staying home is not a possibility for you. However, if you really want to stay home, consider things that your family could possibly give up to save money. For example, you may be able to cut cable and use Netflix instead. Or, you might be able to get rid of your gym membership and work out at home. If you are over budget, make a list of things that are not a necessity and subtract them from your budget. Remember that this is potentially temporary and you may be able to add things back in slowly when you get a better feel for your budget.

Consider a Part Time Job

If you are still over budget after completing these steps, you might consider other ways to earn a small income on the side. You may be able to find a job that you can do from home such as blogging or customer service. Another option would be to find a part time job in the evenings or on the weekends. This may not be ideal as you wouldn’t be together as a family as much. However, if you are absolutely set on making it work, you might consider this as a temporary solution.

To Do Checklist

In order to help simplify the process, I have created a checklist of steps to take in order to decide if you are financially ready to live on one income. I hope you can use this checklist in order to get a better idea if you are financially ready to live on one income.

 

 

 

What else is keeping you from being a stay at home parent? Leave a comment below and let me know!

 

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