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10 Things to do When Your BFF Becomes a New Mom

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So your BFF is becoming a new mom! Whether you are a mom or not, you might be wondering what you can do to help.

Becoming a mom for the first time is one of the most life-changing events. No amount of organizing or cleaning can really prepare you for how life is about to change.

It can be overwhelming, anxiety-inducing, and just plain hard at times. Support from family and friends can make all the difference!

If you haven’t already you should check out my posts on How to Support Your Wife as a New Mom and How to Support Your Husband as a New Dad.

As a friend or family member, there are many ways you can help ease the transition into motherhood. I did some reflecting on my own time as a first time mom and here is what I came up with.

 

10 Things You Must Do When Your Best Friend Becomes a New Mom

This Post is sponsored by Little Nest Boutique, Moose and Goose Studio, and Sweet Vintage Designs. This post contains affiliate links. All opinions are my own.

1. Help her register. If you are a mom yourself, there is no one better than you to help your BFF register for her first baby. One of the most overwhelming parts of becoming a new mom is trying to register. I remember spending 3 hours in the store with my husband registering. We looked at the entire wall full of bottles and had no idea where to start. Not to mention, I was pregnant, tired, and hungry.

Set up a time to go with your BFF to register. Better yet, sit down and create a baby registry on Amazon from home! Shop Amazon – Create an Amazon Baby Registry Don’t know where to start? Check out my post on Ten Products Every New Mom Should Know About.


2. Throw a baby shower. Obviously, if your BFF is having her first baby you should throw her a baby shower! Since baby showers can get a little pricey, ask some other friends to go in on it with you! Having multiple hosts helps take the pressure off and saves you some money!


3. Get her a gift. Not just any gift. This is your best friend we’re talking about! Try to think of something personal to go along with something from her registry. Here are some fantastic little Etsy Shops that have adorable baby gift ideas!

Little Nest Boutique

Little Nest Boutique Navy baby blanket, newborn swaddle, baby wrapAt Little Nest Boutique you can find blankets, swaddles, bibs, made to order bassinet and crib sheets and so much more! You have to check out her shop!

Moose and Goose Studio

Moose and Goose Studio Modern Baby Gift Set

Go check out Moose and Goose Studio to find wooden teething rings, bibs, pacifier clips, and more! Follow Moose and Goose Studio on Facebook and Instagram and message Rachel to receive 10% off your first order!

Sweet Vintage Designs

Personalized Baby Name in a Frame Gift

This is just one example of the cute prints that Peggy at Sweet Vintage Designs creates! She is able to customize the name and colors of any print in her shop! Be sure to go check out all of her other designs as well!

4. Make her a meal or 2 or 3. This one is a MUST! The new mama (and her family) need all the nourishment they can get! It is so easy for new moms to forget about taking care of themselves while they care for a new baby. However, it is so important!

Bring a hot meal and a few that can be frozen. After I had my first, I also had a friend that came and stocked my pantry! It was so nice not to have to search for food when I needed a quick snack! When I needed a meal, all I had to do was heat something up and voila a fresh, home-cooked meal! Totally beats take out any day!

5. Set up a meal train calendar. Help your BFF and yourself by setting up a meal train calendar! Send it out to her friends or add it to Facebook. The more meals, the better! You can set up a free meal train HERE!

6. Help her address thank you notes. With a new baby comes gifts galore! While taking care of a new baby writing thank you notes can be a bit overwhelming! Help your BFF by addressing and sending out her thank you notes!

7. Call and visit her AFTER the hype is over. Who doesn’t love visiting a brand new baby? Continue to call and check on the new mama in the weeks (and months) after the baby is born. After the hype of the new baby is over, it can get lonely at times as a new mom. I found I really needed friends after my husband and mom went back to work and I was home alone with the baby all day.

8. Ask her what she needs. You may really have to pry on this one. Some mamas don’t want to bother anyone or ask for help. Insist on helping somehow and ask what she needs. It may be something as small as a coffee run or something like help cleaning the house! Be available and ask what she needs.

9. Get her out of the house. I remember my very first trip out of the house as a new mom. My mom came with me and we took the baby to her first doctor’s visit. Afterwards, we made a trip to Target and got things I still needed for the baby. Had my mother not been with me, I don’t think I could have made that first trip out by myself! It sounds silly, but it caused a lot of anxiety for me as a new mom! So thankful I had my mom with me that day!

10. Don’t expect anything from her. Make this time all about your BFF and her the new addition to her family. Things may never be like they were between you and your BFF before the baby came along. Understand the changes she is going through and give her time to adjust. Eventually, you and your BFF will find a “new normal.”

Do you have other helpful tips for friends of a new mom? Leave them in the comments below! πŸ™‚

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in Newborns

How to Support Your Wife as a New Mom

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Motherhood. It seemed so easy, until I became a mom. I walked into the hospital with grand ideas about what motherhood would be like, but when I came out (with my new baby), it was like everything had shifted. I was no longer the same person. It was like I had to learn how to be me again, but in a different way. At first, it was all just surreal. It took some time to realize that this tiny human was mine and she depended on me for everything. She depended on me to figure out breastfeeding, diaper changing, sleep schedules, bathing, clipping fingernails, and SO much more.


In one day I went from doing whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to not having energy to eat!


Now, I’m not saying I didn’t love being a mom. I am saying that I was overwhelmed and unexpectedly so. Thankfully, I had my (amazing) husband to help me through this time. He must have had someone coaching him along the way because he always seemed to know what to say to calm my fears and anxiety. However, this is not always the case. So many women deal with postpartum depression and anxiety and their husband or significant other have no idea how to deal with it. Even moms who are not carrying the burden of PPD can feel unsupported by their husband simply because he doesn’t know what to do to help.


Here are some ways for a husband to support his wife as a new mom:


  1. Check on her. Ask her if there is anything she needs- and not just once, ask her all. of. the. time. When she is nursing, resting, changing the baby, or even entertaining visitors. After giving birth, hormones are all over the place. She may be fine one minute and dying of thirst the next. Fill her water glass, make her food, make her take a nap. In thinking of the baby, she may need reminders to take care of herself too.

  2. Get up at night. You might be like me and think it is silly for both of you to lose sleep when only one of you can care for the baby. However, being up with an inconsolable baby in the middle of the night can be lonely, exhausting, and frustrating. Even if you don’t know how to help, at least wake up and ask her how you can help. Many people also recommend having dad change the diaper and bring the baby to mom for feeding. This gives mom a few minutes extra sleep and shows that you are doing what you can to help.

  3. Don’t complain. If your wife gets up most times in the night with the baby, don’t complain when it is your turn or when she asks you to help out. She needs her sleep just as much as you do, even if you are going back to work and she’s not.

  4. Rub her back. Giving birth and learning how to nurse a newborn is physically draining. Give your wife a massage. Don’t wait for her to ask for one. In fact, any chance you get, rub her feet, her back or her head. She deserves it!

  5. Listen. Your wife may be trying to tell you how she is feeling. Take time to really listen and understand. There is a good chance her hormones are getting the best of her and even she doesn’t understand it. Listen, and then confirm what a good job she is doing.

  6. Prepare meals and snacks. Even if you aren’t used to cooking, make an attempt to prepare meals for your wife and family. If you are back at work you may have to make frozen meals or even get take out. Somehow, be sure your wife is eating good meals throughout the day. She will need the nourishment but most likely won’t think about it on her own.

  7. Change diapers. Any time you are around and the baby needs changing, offer to change it. Most likely, she has changed 20 other diapers already that day.

  8. Offer to take the baby. Offer to take the baby while she takes a shower or a nap. Heck, tell her to go out to lunch with friends and get out of the house. She will need this in order to feel like herself again, but may not ask for it.

  9. Pick up groceries. Ask your wife for a list of groceries and run to the store after work. The last thing she will want to do is get out and buy groceries.

  10. Let her sleep in. If your wife was up with the baby in the night, offer to get up with the baby in the morning and let her sleep in. Bring the baby to her (if nursing) and then let her go back to bed. This will help her to feel like she has gotten a full night’s sleep.



Your wife might be killing it as a new mom, but it can’t hurt to do these things. It can be hard for new moms to ask for help, even when they really need it. Be ahead of the game and try doing these things without her asking. Just because she doesn’t ask for it, doesn’t mean she doesn’t need it. Do these things multiple times a day if you are home, again without her asking, and don’t expect anything in return. She is doing a lot already!





Not only are you helping your wife by doing these things, but you will be creating a strong bond with the baby, which is equally as important.


Now, don’t worry, I am already starting a post about how moms can support their husbands as a new dad. πŸ™‚


What did your husband do to support you as a new mom? Post it in the comments below!


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